Chances are you took many losses while becoming the man that you are today, but watching your kids catch an L isn’t always the easiest!
A couple of weeks ago my oldest son took not 1 but 2 back to back L’s in basketball like his name was Meek Mill!
These were 2 huge championship games in 2 pretty competitive basketball leagues and I won’t lie, those losses hurt us both even if we got 2nd place in both leagues.
Even though I was the coach and was super upset I couldn’t show that to the kids. See us dads get all caught up in our feelings forgetting that our kids are lost in their feelings. They need someone strong by them and they need to be able to vent or cry as needed!
So your kid took an L, what are you going to do about it now?????
As a huge fan of books and reading, a good book fair get me hyped! I always looked forward to all the new books, talks and especially the giveaways!
Before having kids all my free time was devoted to reading books, heck I even started my career in technology at the top book publishing company Random House due to my love of books.
So when I was asked to volunteer for my sons’ book fair, there was no way I was saying no to it. I was going to be lugging around my 6 month old with me but since I never did it before I was excited about it! So I agreed to work the event for two hours with my sidekick alongside.
Besides setting my own time limit of being there I learned a few other things along the way that I hope can help you as a volunteer and/or parent!
My dad was a huge believer of Paying It Forward before it became a fad! He didn’t call it that though, he just considered it as him being a GREAT person!
Growing up, people would always tell me how dope my dad was. They always told me that I was lucky to have a father like him but I didn’t get it until I was in my 20’s.
I watched him navigate the block with ease being able to speak to the drug dealers and to the people “making it” outside of the hood. He was able to get along with everyone because of his actions and treatment of others. He never passed judgment on anyone and helped anyone that asked, that’s exactly the type of people I want my kids to be!
But it doesn’t just happen, so here are a few things I try to teach them about Paying It Forward like a boss supposed to! Remember it’s up to us!
I have been fighting a trip to Las Vegas since my college days. I can play a great game of cee-lo, poker or black jack, but gambling outside of the stock market never interested me. Neither did the night life.
I always thought Vegas was a place to gamble and the way I respect my cash, I never saw it as anything else.
Now as an adult with a family I finally took the trip and I learned that I WAS WRONG!
Vegas was dope, and you don’t have to spend big to do it big in Vegas with your kids. These 4 places are just a few of the activities that hit the spot and made the trip fun for the both the kids and this DAD!
A few days ago I took my son to a day of intensive basketball training with A&B basketball. Before our workouts they play a game called break the chain in order to warm up, encourage teamwork and wake the kids up.
I watched as a simple game became difficult because the kids were not working as a team. The coach eventually stopped everyone and explained to them; that they could not win without working as a team.
It took them a while but they finally got it!
As I watched them I realized that teamwork is a hard concept to grasp at any age. We are taught by default to take care of and worry about ourselves. But this same thinking can ruin your progression or even your relationships.
Learning to work as part of a team takes some time but once it’s mastered things work much better. Here are some of the things I try to emphasize with my kids and sometimes even with other adults.
Chuck E Cheese’s has become one of my family’s favorite places to visit! I can let my kids run wild why I have my own fun which makes it ideal for a rainy day or any day that we need something last minute to do.
We take full advantage of it and it’s definitely a Cool4Dads Certified Event
One of my favorite stores growing up was Toys “R” Us. Till this day that I don’t want to grow up jingle is stuck in my head!
My dad would take me there whenever I wanted to buy a new video game or other toys. Now with 3 sons I get to continue the tradition but unlike my dad, we don’t spend lots of cash there. Instead we visit the store when they are hosting a FREE event.
Yup you read that correctly! Toys R Us holds at least 1 FREE event a month and you can be part of it WITHOUT having to spend a dollar!
My dad didn’t just donate sperm; he raised me alongside my mother. I was blessed to have him there every morning and every night. I was his twin and he was with me almost everywhere I went.
However; like many dads, my dad was never there to watch me receive an award from school, never watched me play on a sports team and was never there to see me receive my 2 degrees from college. Heck he didn’t even make it to my wedding!
I grew up on food stamps and welfare. I have no shame about it and learned very quickly at a young age the power of having and saving money.
School didn’t teach me a damn thing about money! My dad, experiences and books did that for me! Now I’m using what I learned from him and my own investments to help my kids learn about cash without making it boring.
There’s so many ways that a dad can teach his kids about money but these 5 things help me educate them without boring them to death!